Healthcare and Other Forms of Mortal Combat

Some of the most unpleasant arguments I’ve ever had with people have involved books. Many years ago, my old college roommate sent me an email warning that the book The Purpose Driven Life was evil. Now, I had read the book, and she had not. I didn’t think Rick Warren’s insights were particularly deep or life-changing, but I disagreed with her that Rick Warren was a minion of Satan. So I responded and essentially said, “Maybe you should read it before you make up your mind.” She hasn’t spoken to me in seven years…all over a stupid book.

I also got the silent treatment from a close relative once after I asked him to stop sending me anti-Obama emails. You know, the kind that said that President Obama was Muslim and that he wanted all women to wear burkas. The final straw was when he sent me a picture of Obama holding a book called The Post-American World by Fareed Zakaria. My relative said that the book was evidence that candidate Obama wanted America to ooze into decline. I said (because The Post-American World is an intelligent and thought-provoking book by a talented writer), “Maybe you should read the book so that you know what it’s actually about.” He wrote back that I had called him a stupid redneck…which I didn’t…and didn’t speak to me for about three months.

It’s so interesting that you can say things to people and that they hear something completely different from what you said. It’s also interesting how discussions about politics and religion rip the covers off of people’s worst thoughts and impulses. I made the mistake of posting about Obamacare on Facebook today. I knew my enthusiasm for healthcare reform might provoke people. Talk about walking into a virtual minefield. For the most part, the people in my circle acquitted themselves well. I read passionate and sensible defenses of Obamacare and equally well-reasoned arguments against the law.

And then there were other people. Some were friends, some were friends’ friends. Some people said things that were just kind of ignorant. A guy that I vaguely knew in high school posted something about universal healthcare being cheaper and easier in Norway because everyone rides a bike and eats healthy food and never has a health problem. Um, okay. Some people posted that they were moving to Canada…a country that has universal healthcare. Well, whatever, I told myself. I’ve said stupid things before. We’ve all made ignorant statements because we feel passionate about something.

On the other hand, some people really went where they shouldn’t have. One liberal friend of a friend said that another guy who called Obamacare “bondage” was making a racist statement, which I thought was unnecessary. Back to the Norway post, someone (I’m assuming a non-supporter of Obamacare) said that Norway would be a better place to live because they didn’t have “a certain element” while another poster said that Norway had “a lot of Muslims.” I don’t think Norway is a cultural Mecca—consider the guy who’s currently on trial in Norway for murdering over 70 teenagers in the name of Aryanism. I’m also not sure what “a certain element” meant, but I didn’t like the implication.

We tend to avoid discussions about politics and religion in this country because we are so polarized. Unfortunately, because we don’t communicate, the polarization continues to deepen. At the end of the day, both those who loved Obamacare and those who didn’t logged out of Facebook and prepared dinner. People who liked Obamacare because they thought it reflected the values of Christianity or social justice held fast to their convictions, while those who felt that Obamacare was poor stewardship of God’s or America’s resources also clung to their beliefs. We all sat down at our tables and talked to our kids and looked into their eyes wanting them to have a better world that the one we have now.

Is Facebook the place for religious and political discourse? That’s debatable. It’s too much to ask that all of our opinions be well-reasoned and well-articulated, particularly when you’re typing furiously into a little white rectangular box. One Facebook friend weighed in on Obamacare and then took his post down. However, I do remember that at the end of what he’d written, he’d said, “You can all go back to posting pictures of your dinner now.”

Maybe my friend is right. Maybe we should reserve Facebook for the shallow end of the pool. But I do think that we have to wade into the deep end every now and then to keep the dialogue open. I dare you to start a reasonable conversation with someone about Obamacare and to do it face-to-face. If the discussion helps you to see a real person behind the rhetoric, then the discomfort that you both feel will be worth it.

One thought on “Healthcare and Other Forms of Mortal Combat

  1. Heather Ferguson-Hull says:

    I really appreciate what you wrote, because I have the same struggles. I have posted political things to FB from time to time, but I don’t like getting into heated arguments, so I have increasingly shied away from it. At the same time, if we don’t engage in dialog at all, as you point out, it is easier for positions to calcify. So I definitely identify with all you’ve said…and I will probably continue to stay in the shallow end of FB…for now.

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